Have you ever noticed that there are not so many positive feedbacks when you do something good, but if you make a mistake, it gets noticed immediately? Would you like to hear good feedback more often? And did you ever wonder how powerful feedback can be? If yes, then you are in the right place! This episode will give you the secret tips and exclusive information about the ways to use feedback to get happier.
What you’ll discover
- How feedback influences your life and happiness
- Why people don’t give you feedback on good things you do
- The secret motion and tips to help you
- The benefits of giving and receiving feedback
- How to give feedback properly
- There’s one interesting phenomenon: by doing something good you will rarely get positive feedbacks. For instance, if you did some extra move or achievement, you will probably be notified, but you’ll barely hear positive words about it. Why am I saying that it’s a phenomenon? Because people realize that you did something good or special, and they even enjoyed it, but it’s not a common practice to tell about it, or thank for it. On the other hand, if you do something wrong or bad, you will definitely hear about it.
- Please think: Do you have such situations when you put some energy into something, people use, consume or see it, but you get no positive feedback?
- Sometimes, you may hear this phrase, – “I’ve been doing it for several years already, but nobody has ever thanked me for that!” Can you relate to this statement?
- By knowing the problem when people don’t like to provide positive feedbacks, you can become the one who does it. Do you feel that? You can notify and tell others that you see their efforts, and you like it, or you appreciate it! This is funny how simple and clear it is. And most people don’t do that!
- Let’s speak about the benefits of giving positive feedbacks. The first benefit is that you can make a person’s day; you could be the trigger for that! In a chain of that person’s routines, your words could even heal the person! And also, if to recall the previous episode, by giving positive feedback, you become a provider of rewards to others, rewards for their efforts. The second benefit is that by doing that, you spread goodness in this world. Because, if you’ve made other person happier, you force them to do good as well. And the effect is often multiplied. The third benefit is to be treated as an open and kind person. Because, by giving positive feedbacks, you become positively different from others.
- One of the benefits of feedback is that you can get additional information about that activity because the person to whom you gave a positive feedback sometimes wants to pay you back and start speaking with you about that activity in details. And that’s how you can get some extra insights.
- Your feedbacks can sometimes force other people to do more and better. Because, if a person has just started doing something good and did it several times already, but received no positive feedbacks, the person often loses motivation to continue doing that. But after positive feedback, the person realizes that something is worth continuing doing.
- Let’s talk a little bit about the practical aspect of implementing all of that in your life. The first step, of course, is to notify yourself that a person did something special, or that person did something good. The easiest way is to analyze your own life and your own behaviour, to recall the situations when you did something good, when you put some energy in, some positive load into your activities. And you would be grateful if someone could give you feedback. Then remember those cases and start tracking if other people do that as well. And if you notify that, this is the moment when you can give yourself feedback.
- What are the components of good and valuable feedback? First of all, the closer your feedback is to the time of a doing, the better it is. I mean that if someone did something great, you don’t need to wait two more weeks to tell the…
- Feedback should be real and constructive. The phrase “I like it” is not specific enough. The more details you give, the better is the feedback. But it should be honest feedback about real achievements. Please, don’t manipulate someone by using feedbacks. It doesn’t make any good.
- By giving specific feedback, you can make a person realize that he or she is special, and he or she has some extraordinary thing. And by that, you can change that person’s life, by simply giving feedback.
- It’s an art – to give good feedback. And with every next try, you become better. All you need is to keep practising.
The task for the next week
- The first step: recall situations from the last several days, when you saw some extra efforts from a person, or you received an ordinary service or any other situation that was worth giving feedback. By doing that, you’re setting your radars on.
- The second step: imagine, what could be the worst feedbacks in those situations? Please, don’t forget about the components of feedbacks that I’ve previously provided. By doing that, you will set up some patterns for further situations.
- The third step: start giving feedbacks! For fixing those feedback patterns, it would be nice to give at least one feedback a day. Look out for those situations, notify those events, notify efforts of others and tell them about that!