Who you are?
Are you sure?
To bring you a clear picture what I’m speaking about, I’ll tell you one story from my past experience. Working in one of my previous jobs I had a colleague who was having some troubles in the office. And he knew that the reason for those troubles wasn’t an environment of the office or daily routines there. But he felt that the reason why my colleague hasб was actually the approach which that person used to handle tasks on working place. So I shared with him my thoughts and suggested ideas on how he can change his approach, his behavior to have better results.
Here are my examples of such thoughts about me
Am I that kind of person other told me
Who am I? Am I lazy, sly with no final good results? And who are you? Based on the feedbacks that you received in your childhood. We returned back to the topic of the episode: Who you are and how do you know that? Here’s an interesting thing – if you believe in something, you’ll try to find additional evidences that this is true. That means that once you received feedback from one of adults, you started thinking about yourself in new way. And every time faced with the similar situation you just saw evidence that the person was right. That’s how you have most of your beliefs about your personality. I understand – it’s really hard to accept that, but once you consider that idea, you will start look on your life differently.
Six groups of personal features
To help you see that in more structured way, I would suggest to you several groups of those characteristics. One group is your appearance and body features.That could be anything – your weight, how does your face look like and so on. Second group is your intellectual abilities. This is actually can you handle complicated intellectual tasks. Third group is your emotional and behavioral skills. For instance, how easily you communicate with others are you stay calm in tough situations and other similar features. Forth group is your creativity and fantasy – how easy for you to draw something or to be a musician or any other kind of artist. Fifth group is actually your motivation. What drives you. For instance about one person, people or even parents can say ‘you think only about yourself’. And the last group is all the rest of beliefs.
Right now looking on our past past prizm of years we can see that all those influencers most likely changed our life, showed us who we are were actually wrong in the different things. Do you see what I’m going? If you know the person well and you know that the person is not always right or even not in 70 percents of all the situations. That means that the person was probably wrong when giving feedback to you. What skills does this person has to judge you properly and to give qualitative conclusion. And if that person was wrong that means that at least in some situations you didn’t know who you are. Because your beliefs were wrong. And all the evidences that you collected through the life were just filtered and collected just because you heard that feedback previously, which created those filters to you. And that means that right now you have a lot of work to do to explore yourself. Also consider one more thing. Right now you are older, with new experience, with new obtained or improved skills even without realizing those. Thus even feedback from adults was right at that moment, right now you are different person.